Light One Candle

I don’t know his name and never will. That candle is hard for me to label, and even harder to light. May his memory, tough though that is, be for a blessing.

Toehold

I have a friend. We’re not close, and that’s mostly on me. I’m a sporadic correspondent, and peripatetic: always doing something, usually unavailable, and I have kids. Our kids are grown but if you think that reduces the obligation, maybe you don’t have kids. My friend has an avocation. Now there’s a word that gets … [more]

Re-Gifting

It’s only mid-morning, and I’m already hopelessly behind on thanking wonderful friends for your birthday greetings. Whoever is reading this and smiling to themselves, I feel your heart and I truly appreciate you touching in. Thank you for being part of my life which, given my bumptious lack of judgment and planning, has already been … [more]

SHITBIRD

Your United States military is a many-splendored institution built on centuries of bright honor and revered tradition. If it’s also got its skeletons and missteps, you may want to kindly squint past that. Serving under arms is a harder path than most Americans want to walk and if you’re not one of them, then sit … [more]

Of Balancing Affliction Scales, and Numbering the Beast

A signal inclusion is the enumerated interrogation of discomfort: “What’s your pain number?”

Memorex

I’m not the vet whisperer. I’m not here to tell you how to live, and I’m definitely not here to tell you how to weekend. Occasionally, well-meaning Americans ask me what’s an appropriate way to observe Memorial Day. We don’t have a lot of somber holidays on our calendar. In a culturally “Easter and Christmas” … [more]

Homecoming

Have you ever woken up, skin on skin in the afternoon, not from pain or a nightmare but slowly, gently, trusting the moment? The woman next to you is who put you to sleep, and you put her to sleep, and she’s wound around you and into you so ideally that everything is comfort and … [more]